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The above quote was often-referenced by Dr. King and other African-American preachers down through the times in their speeches, talks, and sermons. I've heard it throughout my life and always thought it was a fitting aphorism reminding us of the need to always celebrate the small victories that ultimately lead us to our greatest achievements. After all, we are all works in progress and the great beauty of life is that no matter what our pasts were, our futures are spotless. Sheldon Jones

Who Will Remember?

By Sandy Coletta

Many years ago, I had the privilege of working with a very wise man. We were in a bit of a crisis, a delayed computer conversion with significant dollars on the line. Because of the delay, the go live date overlapped with a planned vacation that included my children.

I was bracing myself for the harsh reality of needing to tell them that we wouldn't be going, when he asked a simple question: Who will remember?

I gave that question a lot of thought and decided to proceed with the vacation. After all, the thought that I would someday be laying on my death bed and have my children remind me of the time I cancelled their trip was too much to contemplate.

The alternative also struck me as a harsh reality, the likelihood of any of my co-workers or bosses being present to thank me for my sacrifice of a family vacation was close to zero.

An impossible choice in the moment becomes so much clearer when viewed as the memory it will create.

(whisper)

by Amy Blaschka

Struggling to be heard?

Your natural inclination may be to raise your voice, literally or metaphorically. But this world has a cacophony of noise. Tons of distractions. A million reasons that make it difficult to listen. Yelling louder won’t help you break through.

Worse, you’ll just be another person/brand/company “screaming” at others. Instead, consider doing something completely counterintuitive: whisper.

Or don’t speak at all; use non-verbal forms of communication. Because doing so may provide you with a point of difference. And because you stand out, you’ll get attention. The right kind of attention. And when you have that, you can finally deliver your message and be heard.

Remember, communication isn’t about being the loudest in the room. It’s about connecting with your intended audience. Respectfully, kindly, creatively. And I for one would much rather connect with someone who cares enough not to yell at me.

Unexpected Kindness

by Amy Blaschka "I just wanted to say I admire you. You are kicking ass!" Nearly a year ago, right before going to bed, I received that message from a friend and former colleague. I have to admit, it was completely unexpected but utterly awesome to hear. And this week, I was both surprised and delighted to receive a message from a reader praising my writing and ability to relate and connect with others. There's nothing quite like being at the receiving end of a random act of kindness. And truth be told, being at the giving end isn't too shabby either. Science backs this up. When we help others, it’s good for our health and vitality, improving emotional resilience, boosting the immune system, and reducing susceptibility to depression and anxiety. So here's your challenge: without any expectation of reciprocity, and with no ulterior motive other than to spread joy, commit a random act of kindness. Today. Right now. Never underestimate the power unexpected kindness. I promise you that it will make you feel amazing, make a huge difference in the recipient's life, and if we're lucky, cause a beautiful ripple effect.

Make Failure Safe

When I taught my kids to ride a bike, we practiced on the front lawn. It's a little harder to pedal than on our driveway, but it hurts a lot less when you fall. When I teach a friend to ski, I look for a sunny day with soft snow and then we seek out a gentle slope. The safer you make failure, the more willing you—or someone else—will be to try new things, to experiment, and to learn.